A little break…

My lovely readers, It’s time for me to take a little break from this blog.  I’ve been blogging on here for over three years and although I find it cathartic, therapeutic and fun, it’s also causing me to obsess over being single – not an attractive quality… Maybe that’s why I’m still single?   I…

You know you’re getting old when…

My best friend and I had a competition: half an hour to write about being an adult in 2017. Here’s my entry. Here’s his entry: Why is it that, as a grown-up, our most important mile stones in life (18, 21, 25 and 30) seem to be fraught with reservations (OMG I’m getting really old,…

Your future girlfriend will thank me.

I taught you how to dress in the style you seek.  I taught you which neck and sleeve lines look good with the way you do your hair.  I demonstrated how some colours suit your skin and hair colour, and how some don’t.  In the minefield you found jeans to be, I taught you which…

Find your core.

Your core is kindness. A friend recently said. Kindness is your soul.  Do not change.  Be true to your core even if others fuck you over.  These ‘others’ can be any ‘them – us’ group.  This year, the ‘others’ have been men.  They have screwed me over again, and again, and again.  And I’m fed up. …

“She’s hot”

When asking male friends about the girl they are newly dating, they immediately tell me how hot (or not) she is.  Initially, the guys rate her value based on how attractive they find her, not how suited her personality is to their own personalities.  I want to hear what she’s like, what her interests are…

Opposites.

What do I want? One was not this, that and the other enough. The other was too this, that and the other. But not enough of this other thing. He was perfect with this other thing. Has that thing affected my love map? Has that person affected my love map?  Undoubtedly.  He’s an alpha.  And that’s…

I’m a nice girl, not a bitch.

In a moment of weakness, I texted my ex the other day.  This time last year, he told me he had got his shit together.  He said he stopped all the drugs and alcohol and had a better job.  We all know this only lasted 2 weeks.  But scrolling through his Facebook page stalking him…

Please don’t be a Fuckboy.

I seem to have the same conversation with myself at least three times a year. I may as well cancel this date, he’s bound to be as shit as the rest. Don’t be silly, just go.  You never know. Wow, he’s so lovely.  I’m so chuffed I went.  Fingers crossed he’ll text! Who cares if…

Mind-reading

How am I meant to know what you are thinking? How do I know you won’t be like the rest and disappear? Is there a way I can find this out without scaring you away? Is there a way I can avoid this sinking feeling that it’s happening again..?

How to be a grown-up.

At 25, I reckon I’m doing a pretty good job of being an adult.  Things go tits-up sometimes, but I learn from these mishaps.  Being an open-book and a natural advice-giver, I often share with my friends what I’m doing to be a successful grown-up and tell them how they can be a grown-up too…

Date Week continued

So I went on the date. I was going to cancel but my friend convinced me otherwise.  I’m thrilled I didn’t cancel.  What a guy! Instant, mutual attraction. We have lots in common and the conversation flowed beautifully. He didn’t agree with everything I had to say; he challenged me and we discussed things. He made…