My attitude towards being single has got out of hand; I need to shrink ‘ohmygodI’mstillsingleandprobablywillbeforever‘ back down to ‘I’msingle!:)‘. It’s getting a bit out of hand and I need to stop feeling down about being on my own, and need to remember how great it felt to be newly single and 21 a few years ago. I’ve got into the mindset that being 23 and single is crap, but it really isn’t.
- I can do what I like, when I like, with whomever I like
- I can go out and come home at godknowswhattime and not feel guilty
- I could not come home…
- My career is off to a flying start without the distractions of a boyfriend
So here’s to a brilliant Single Summer, filled with lots of fun.
When your relationship status has been ‘single’ for over a couple of years, you have to really consider whether it’s you who’s doing something wrong. And this is why I took the risk and asked my friends what I do that has resulted in me remaining single.
Naturally, they said ‘nothing’.
Then I asked my sister. She was happy to point out the things I shouldn’t do on a date that I probably do. You can always trust a relative to tell you your downfalls.
So I’m heeding her advice – it’s hard to subdue the natural things I’ve done automatically for the past 23 years, but I need a new tac.
Watch this space.
I think I miss you. Then when we chat, I secretly hate you and feel bad about myself. Then you suggest we meet and I feel crap after I see you.
So the new plan of action is not to text you or call you. To be aloof. And when you call, I’ll be busy, and slightly unattainable. Meeting with you would be stupid, so I won’t do it.
At least that’s the plan.
and she brings me back to reality.
On the rare occasions when I go through mopey times of self-pity, my friend brings be back to earth.
Babe, you need to chill about being single.
Why is it that boys make such a difference to my happiness? As a very happy-go-lucky person, it annoys me how I can feel so down when guys are (consistently) arseholes. But as much as I try to put this single blip into the bigger picture, I inevitably find myself down about not having a boyfriend by the end of the day. You just have to go on Facebook to believe you are the only single person out of your friendship circle. As a side, this is why I frequently scan my friends list, deleting people I no longer consider a friend. Thank god I have my friend to tell me to get a grip. She reminds me that I’m ‘fab‘. I.e: 23, living in Brighton and my career is going fantastically well. And I shouldn’t worry about not having a partner. She too is single, which gives her arguments validity.
So to my special friend and all the friends who support their single friends, thank you: you are making the journey a whole lot better.