This is always the case; until it isn’t.

I’ve spent most of my dating life learning that “keenness isn’t cool.” DON’T BE KEEN!! they told me. Play it cool. I was told. So how is it that a friend is now dating a girl he once thought was overly keen?  She is older than my friend, she has baggage, she replies at 4am…

What am I looking for?

I sent a whip-around text to some girlfriends a few days ago, asking them to rank these in order of importance for a guy: personality, face, intelligence, figure, sense of humour, relationship with your friends, their friends and their parents.  I was intentionally vague; not specifying if I meant for sex, a date or a…

Just look at me.

For this post, let’s park social anxiety disorders to the side. Stop avoiding eye contact.  Look me in the eye when you talk to me.  Show me you care.  Stop thinking about something else.  Stop thinking about someone else.  Stop thinking about you.  Look at me.  Show me that you fancy me.  Show me the…

Ghosting and my mother

It’s been a tough few months and last weekend my mum told me (again) how she wished I had a boyfriend, but noticed: Boys these days don’t want relationships; they just want to fuck around. Yes, Mummy.  That’s true. [So-and-so’s] daughter can’t get a boyfriend either.  Blokes just stop texting her.  It’s called something like…ghosting?…