Opposites.

What do I want? One was not this, that and the other enough. The other was too this, that and the other. But not enough of this other thing. He was perfect with this other thing. Has that thing affected my love map? Has that person affected my love map?  Undoubtedly.  He’s an alpha.  And that’s…

I’m a nice girl, not a bitch.

In a moment of weakness, I texted my ex the other day.  This time last year, he told me he had got his shit together.  He said he stopped all the drugs and alcohol and had a better job.  We all know this only lasted 2 weeks.  But scrolling through his Facebook page stalking him…

What we’re looking for.

  Trying to work out what I want from a relationship has been tricky, and through making mistakes in dating people, I’ve mainly discovered what I don’t want.  But on Saturday night I figured it out with a friend.  What I want is balance. I want someone who balances with me: They have similar life aspirations They are at…

A sexual history by numbers

1. We were together for 7 years.  Pretty wonderful, really. 2.  This was a little weird.  A different man’s body.  You were so fucking awkward afterwards. 3 and 4.  A fun night all around… 5.  The first one-night stand.  Nothing was okay about this. 6.  Gorgeous, younger.  A complete laugh.  We would continue hooking up…

I gave it another shot.

I know getting back with you was a risky move.  No one supported my decision, and at times, I majorly regretted starting things up again.   Round Two started after I wrote you my letter.  I asked you to make the effort.  And you did.  On a quiet Sunday evening, you phoned me up and…

This isn’t a practice run.

There really is just one chance to get your life ‘right‘, isn’t there?  You can’t just ‘have a go’ and hope for the best and hey, if it goes tits up, oh well – try again next time.  I’m 25 and don’t have a partner and the scary thing is there is no way of…

Let’s not beat around the bush.

In dating and relationships, I’m a real advocate of ‘honesty is the best policy’.  It’s not fun hearing someone isn’t into you, but at least you know.  It’s not fun admitting a relationship has run its course, but at least you aren’t clinging onto false hope.  It’s not fun accepting the possibility that you might…

No really, I don’t need you.

I think it’s much better to be wanted than needed.   But is it rude to tell someone you don’t need them?   Here’s why I don’t need you: I can cook I can clean the house I drive myself around I can sort car issues out I have my own social life I’m not…

Just look at me.

For this post, let’s park social anxiety disorders to the side. Stop avoiding eye contact.  Look me in the eye when you talk to me.  Show me you care.  Stop thinking about something else.  Stop thinking about someone else.  Stop thinking about you.  Look at me.  Show me that you fancy me.  Show me the…

A letter to my ex.

Dear You, The summer was confusing.  I missed you and you confessed you still loved me. We nearly met up to see if we could rekindle things.  We didn’t meet – thank God.  Being friends wasn’t going to happen, was it?  At least not yet.  Any anyway, I was seeing someone (admittedly I wasn’t as invested…

The best sex – it’s what you don’t say.

When speaking with a friend recently, we found “let’s come together!” particularly off-putting.  It’s not always easy to orchestrate, you lose focus and think less about your own orgasm and more about being perfectly in sync that you lose any chance of climaxing.   For me, the best sex isn’t just about confidence, attraction and…

Can you be nice and sexy?

This year I’ve learnt that although personality is important, it’s not absolutely crucial and looks are more important than I anticipated. I’ve been seeing a guy for a few months now and we’ve progressed into boyfriend / girlfriend territory.  According to mutual friends, he had been keen for a while, so we met at social gatherings,…