Find your core.

Your core is kindness. A friend recently said. Kindness is your soul.  Do not change.  Be true to your core even if others fuck you over.  These ‘others’ can be any ‘them – us’ group.  This year, the ‘others’ have been men.  They have screwed me over again, and again, and again.  And I’m fed up. …

Please don’t be a Fuckboy.

I seem to have the same conversation with myself at least three times a year. I may as well cancel this date, he’s bound to be as shit as the rest. Don’t be silly, just go.  You never know. Wow, he’s so lovely.  I’m so chuffed I went.  Fingers crossed he’ll text! Who cares if…

Mind-reading

How am I meant to know what you are thinking? How do I know you won’t be like the rest and disappear? Is there a way I can find this out without scaring you away? Is there a way I can avoid this sinking feeling that it’s happening again..?

Date Week continued

So I went on the date. I was going to cancel but my friend convinced me otherwise.  I’m thrilled I didn’t cancel.  What a guy! Instant, mutual attraction. We have lots in common and the conversation flowed beautifully. He didn’t agree with everything I had to say; he challenged me and we discussed things. He made…

Date Week

1 – First online blind date in a while. I feel excited for this one (he’s attractive in his photos and he seems fun). He doesn’t really look like his photos and he doesn’t seem like he’d be much fun. I don’t think he fancies me; he doesn’t look me in the eyes very often….

7 daily contradictions of my version of feminism

Don’t assume I need help with hanging this picture, but when I ask, be glad to help.   If my computer crashes, don’t move me to the side and fix it within 5 minutes, show me what to do and I’ll fix it for myself.   Don’t expect me to make dinner and then wash…

When ‘no’ doesn’t mean ‘no’.

Sorry for the silence, I’ve been on holiday lots recently.  I went to Ibiza and now I’m writing this sitting on the beach in Rhodes, watching the sun go down. Ibiza is one of my favourite places in the world, and I absolutely love the nightlife.  What I don’t like, however, is that this is…

A double disappearing act.

I was optimistic.  We had met in real life and I really thought we’d manage to meet up this summer.  But you had plenty of excuses for why you couldn’t do this or that weekend.  And now I haven’t heard from you in a week.   You were attractive and confident.  You seduced me and…

You.

You disarmed me.  I wasn’t ready for your suave nature. I wasn’t me. I wasn’t not me, but I was a different version of me. You have an aura about you.  And it’s drawing me in.

Do I wanna know..?

Do I wanna know, if this feeling flows both ways? Yes, I do want to know.  It’s killing me not knowing what’s inside your head.  The messages you give off are so conflicting.  Sad to see you go, was sorta hoping that you’d stay… We have so much fun when you stay.  Please don’t leave….

Nah babes

Matched with a guy on bumble I say hi and he tells me he’s horny He says we should send sex photos to each other He gives me his number so I can send him sex videos I tell him he needs to take me on a date before I send him sex videos He…

8 ways to be a little ray of sunshine.

Be confident in who you are and what you want from life.  At the age of 25, I’m pretty sure of myself.  I’ve had lots of good times and lots of bad times, each one shaping me into the woman I am today.  When I look in the mirror, I like what I see.  Yes,…